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The classic "Traveler" figure of 70's and 80's

television was the man with the uncertain past.
In an attempt to come to terms with this
uncertain past he would travel from place to
place in each episode. He would never settle
down for good anywhere. Invariably, there was
always a woman who wanted to convince him
(unsuccessfully) to stay. But alas, she would
have to be content to watch him walk towards the
setting sun in the distance before the end
credits rolled One of the traveler's most seductive qualities
was his mysterious nature.

Stylelife contributor Monte Cristo understands
why this mystery is so appealing to women, and
he is going to explain. Plus, you will be
provided with information on the two different
ways to attain the mysterious attribute that
generates attraction, including HOW you can use
these skills this weekend to get women wondering
more about YOU.

Enjoy...

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The Two Keys Of Mystery
by Monte Cristo
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In the book "I Moved Your Cheese" by Darrel
Bristol-Bovey, there is a curious story about a
group of African boys that had to cross a
desert. Each one carried their own supply of
water using ostrich egg shells as their water
canteens. Ignoring the danger of not saving the
water, one of the boys drank at every chance he
could and before he realized it he ran out of
water. To avoid the embarrassment of not being
responsible with his water, he did what he could
to avoid showing his empty egg shell to the rest
and he pretended to not be thirsty for the rest
of the journey. Eventually everybody else ran
out of water too, and as they complained of
their thirst, they could not understand how that
other boy didn't give any signs of trouble. They
made all sorts of mental conclusions:

* He had a great tolerance and stamina so the
  heat didn't bother him.

* He was saving water for the rest in case the
  travel became longer.

* He had been wiser about saving his water than
  the others and hadn’t run out yet.

By the time they reached their destination, his
fame and courage had grown so much that he was
immediately appointed tribal leader. Nobody ever
knew that his legendary water canteen had only
been an empty egg shell.

At first glance the story seems to talk about
vanity and the superficiality of people, however
there is an important lesson to be learned. When
one doesn't reveal his "inner egg shell" (even
if it's empty) the rest of the people will "fill
it up". Likewise, when a man doesn't reveal
everything about himself to a woman, she will
generate all sorts of possibilities of what he
could be. She equals him with ideas (often
fantasies) that she has in her mind. Here are
two keys to build attraction through mystery...

1. YOU CAN'T REVEAL EVERYTHING

This is true for relationships that have just
been established, as well as for couples that
have spent a lifetime together. When we think
there is nothing else to decipher, that all the
clues were revealed and that the mystery is
solved, we lose interest. It is what we don't
know that keeps us fascinated. This is even more
important during the initial stages of
attraction.

The following is a sample script of an
interesting conversation that generates mystery.

Her - “So what do you do for a living?"

Me  - "You might be surprised if I told you, but
       before that, what do you do for work?"

Her - "I do promotional stuff."

Me  - "Really? How's that?"

Her - "Good. I like it."

Me  - "I suppose you must have a lot of good
       stories about the people you deal with."

Her - "Well, yes, there are some weird people."

Me  - "Of course. You remind me of my friend
       Kay, who has done promotional work too.
       One time she was doing a promotion...

(Launch into an interesting DHV story).

Note how I do not answer her question right
away. Instead, I change the conversation to her
favorite topic (herself). Then, I launch into an
interesting story that communicates my
personality and attractiveness, while still not
revealing too many personal details about
myself. The secret is that she has a good time
with you in the moment. Then later, when she
feels attraction, she will use her imagination
to fill in all the blanks. Just like the story
of the African boys.

It is from these types of experiences that
generate phrases like "I don't even know what it
is...there's something about him..." Of course
it's something. It's that something you
communicate with your personality. That
something you retain by keeping the suspense.
And that something she creates in her
imagination.

2. HAVE YOUR REALITY SURPASS HER EXPECTATIONS

This second key is equally important and can be
used to generate an irresistibly mysterious
presence. By dedicating a lot of time to living
and arming yourself with life experiences, the
people who meet you will be taken aback by
finding out more about you. They will be
pleasantly shocked by how interesting and
accomplished you are, and a new type of mystery
will develop as they question what else lies
beneath your surface. Let's revisit our sample
script, but this time focus on developing this
second type of mystery:

Her - “So what do you do for a living?"

MC  - "You might be surprised if I told you.
       What would you think somebody like me
       works in?"

Her - "I don't know..."

MC  - "Aw, c'mon, what do you mean you don't
       know. You must have some idea."

Her - "Well, I don't know...I would say you are
       a student or that you are working with a
       company."

MC  - "Not quite, I'm a skydiving instructor."

Her - "Wow! Really? I would never have thought."

MC  - "Why not?"

Her - "I don't know...it's just that you didn't
       give the impression of being like
       that..."

MC  - "Things aren't always the way you think."

At this point she will be chewing on that last
statement. She is asking herself who the heck is
this guy? The mystery has captured her
attention. She wants to know more.

Some of you might be saying "But I don't
skydive... I don't even do anything that
resembles that!" If this is so, maybe it is time
to add some adventure and new experiences to
your life. Often we get trapped in our heads,
imagining a character that we want to be
like...trying to act as if we were that
character.

It is time to escape from that trap. It is time
to BECOME that character instead of planning to
pretend to be like him.

Ask yourself, "What is one thing I have always
wanted to try, but have never gotten around to?"
Now what will you do with that answer? Will you
make plans to try it? Will you MASTER it? It
might be a lot of hard work, but you CAN do it,
correct?

It is true that others will try to "fill up your
internal eggshell" like the story from the book,
but what do you think would happen if they
looked inside and discovered that your eggshell
retains more than they ever imagined.

Your value to them would skyrocket through the
roof.

Arm yourself with something. Seize every
learning, growth and personal development
opportunity you can. Seize the life experiences
that come to you. And for the life experiences
that don't come to you...go out, find them, and
experience them!

A man who has so much going on that he can
afford to keep much of his greatness veiled in
mystery is a man who women will desire. With
each of her discoveries, let a new secret to
your personality lie beneath. So long as she is
exploring layer after layer she will never get
bored, and she will always be attracted.

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