YOUR WEEKEND WINGMAN
Field Reports from the members of the PUA Community, the STYLELIFE ACADEMY coaches and Neil Strauss himself! Tune in every week as you follow us on our quest to understanding the opposite sex!

When Tuesday came around, I spent two hours getting ready to meet her. The three day period in between getting her number and meeting up with her had left me thinking about her all day and night. I was nervous and scared.

My friend Kevin came over, we left in my car.

I told him the story about this blond and we discussed a strategy for the bar.

Our strategy fell apart immediately since she wasn’t there when we arrived. I automatically assumed she wasn’t coming, but I wasn’t about to waste time. I got right to using opinion openers. In under an hour I had a large group of people standing around me.

The perfect time for her to arrive. When she walked out onto the patio she would see a group of girls all paying attention to me.
She walked up and grabbed my hand. Aggressively pulling me away from the other girls.

"I want to buy you a shot. What do you want?"

"Thanks, I like anything but Jaeger. I hate that stuff!"

She couldn't hear me. " I bought you Jaeger, it's my favorite."

"Mine too! That's so awesome!"

I introduced her to my friend Kevin. We all talked for a bit, she was hanging on me repeatedly kissing me on the cheek and hugging me.

The lights flashed in the bar. Closing time.

I handed Kevin my car keys. "Drive my car home."

I looked her in the eyes as we held hands. "Can you give me a ride home so my friend doesn't have to? You live way closer to me."

"Sure!"

We all said goodbye and left.

The car ride was awkward. We didn't know much about each other. She broke the silecne by asking me some questions about myself. I answered with some sort of self-deprecating humor.

"Why do you say things like that about yourself? Don't do it anymore, it makes me feel lik you're not very confident. I like confident guys."
I sat awkwardly in silence. I had no idea how to respond to her.

"I'm not coming up."

"OK, I have to go to work in the morning. So, if you came up then you wouldn't be able to stay long anyways.

We sat there for another minute in silence.

"Well, I'm actually just going to come up and use your bathroom."
"Sure."

We walked inside, I showed her where the bathroom was and then sat on the couch and turned on the television. Batman was on. One of my favorite movies.

The bathroom door opened.

"I'm leaving." She yelled over the television.

I yelled back, "Cool, see you later."

I didn't even look back at her. I thought I had failed. I was ashamed to look into her eyes again.

"I'm going to give you a hug before I go." She walked over to me. "Hey, Batman, I love this move." She sat down next to me.

"Yea, it's awesome. Jack Nicholson is awesome."

She leaned onto me and put her lips next to my cheek. I knew this was it. I'm going to sleep with this girl. I turned and started kissing her. She pushed me down and crawled on top of me. Clothes started coming off…The night was unbelievable. She had an amazing body and an exciting personality.

The process was there. Hidden within the words, movements and emotions of every interaction. Though I didn't actively cause all the pieces to fall into place, I was able to look back and see that all the parts were there:

- I opened and acted aloof; this helped build attraction.
- I challenged her emotions by running material on her friend and talking to all the other girls in the bar.
- By running away from her over and over again, I disqualified myself.
- She made out with me, bought me a drink and gave me a ride home: all ways for her to qualify herself.
- Finally, she was seduced by my non-needy and uninterested behavior. I became a challenge for her. Something that a beautiful girl like her was not used to.

There was truly a structure to this whole game. All I had left to do was Master it…