YOUR WEEKEND WINGMAN
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To understand social proof, imagine two
different scenarios.

SCENARIO #1

A man walks into a bar, after stepping
through the front door he looks around, and
doesn't see anyone he knows. He then walks
over to a table and sits by himself.

A few minutes later he approaches the most
attractive woman in the bar, his opener is
perfect and he has good body language, but
for some reason she shoots him down.

SCENARIO #2

The same man walks into the bar with a
beautiful woman on each arm. When he walks
in, he's greeted by a number of friends and
seems to know everyone at the bar. When he
talks, people stand around and listen. That
night he is seen talking to a number of
different women.

Later on he walks up to the most attractive
woman in the bar and opens perfectly, with
great body language. She immediately begins
to show interest in him. 

ANALYSIS

What is the difference between these two
scenarios? Social Proof. In the first
scenario, this guy appears to have no social
value. In the second scenario, everyone knows
him. This proves to the women in the room
he has a large group of friends and that he
is preselected by women. Friends are evidence
of value. The more friends the more value.

The great news is even if you aren't out
with a large group, you can make it appear
as though you have social proof with the
tactic of quickly opening sets and merging
them:

* Walk in and smile. Approach and open the
first group you see. Spend a few minutes
chatting and then do a takeaway. If you have
a wing, send him to open a different set.

* Quickly find the next set that you can
open. Even if there is no girl you are
interested in, open them. They can still
give you value.

* Introduce that group of people to the
first group of people that you met. This is
called backwards merging. Essentially,
you've just shown both groups of people that
you have a number of friends in the bar.

Contingencies: People will leave the larger
group. They may have other friends in the
bar that you haven't met. This isn't a
problem. You now have a number of
acquaintances moving around the bar.

Assuming you gave them a good impression
when you first approached them, they should
be easy to reopen. The idea is that each
person in a set becomes a connection to
other people in the bar.

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And thus ends our Weekend Wingman. I'll miss
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